How to Guide Without Yelling: Free Parenting Talk in Singapore Inspired by The Courage to Not Control

Are you constantly stuck in power struggles with your child?

Do you find yourself yelling more than you’d like, only to feel guilty afterward?If parenting feels exhausting and you wish your child would just “listen,” you’re not alone.

But what if the real change starts not with your child—but with how you parent?

The Courage to Not Control written by: Ichiro Kishimi

📖 Discover The Courage to Not Control by Ichiro Kishimi

This event is inspired by the powerful parenting guide 《不管教的勇气》（The Courage to Not Control）, written by 岸见一郎（Ichiro Kishimi）, the bestselling co-author of The Courage to Be Disliked.

Rooted in Adlerian Psychology, the book challenges traditional parenting methods that rely on control, punishment, and authority. Instead, it offers a bold yet compassionate approach: give up control to gain cooperation.

Here are a few key takeaways from the book:

1. Stop Controlling, Start Guiding

   The more you try to “fix” or “control” your child, the more resistance you’ll face. Children don’t want to be managed—they want to be respected and understood.

   
   

2. Respect Is the Foundation of Discipline

   True discipline comes not from fear, but from mutual respect and connection. When children feel seen and valued, they are more likely to behave responsibly.

   
   

3. Encouragement Over Praise or Punishment

   Rather than using rewards or punishments, Kishimi emphasizes the power of encouragement—recognizing effort, progress, and the child’s intrinsic motivation.

   
   

4. Parent-Child Equality (Not Hierarchy)

   Parents are not “above” their children. Kishimi invites parents to see their children as equals in dignity—learning and growing together, not through obedience, but through collaboration.

🧠 Why This Book Matters for Modern Parenting

In a world full of parenting tips and quick-fix advice, The Courage to Not Control offers something deeper: a philosophical mindset shift.

It's not about the latest parenting hack—it's about becoming the kind of parent who nurtures inner motivation, emotional safety, and independence in children.

This book is especially meaningful for parents who feel stuck in cycles of nagging, yelling, or power struggles, and who want a new way forward..

👨‍👩‍👧‍👦 Join the Book Sharing Event in Singapore!

We’re bringing this powerful book to life in a free, interactive parenting event:

📚 The Courage to Not Control: Book Sharing & Parenting Talk

📅 Date: Saturday, 19 April 2025 (10am - 12pm)

📍 Location: National Library (100 Victoria St, Singapore 188064)

🎟 Admission: FREE – Registration required

🎁 Bonus: The first 30 participants to register will receive a free physical copy of the book!

💬 What You’ll Experience?

✅ Real-life parenting scenarios + expert interpretation of Adlerian concepts

✅ Actionable tools to improve cooperation and communication at home

✅ Live Q&A to address your specific challenges

✅ Supportive community of like-minded parents

Whether you're a parent of a toddler or preteen, or simply interested in modern educational psychology, this event will give you practical wisdom you can use right away.

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✅ How to Register

📩 Reserve your seat now – limited slots available!👉

Don't miss this opportunity to rethink parenting—and reclaim the joy in your relationship with your child.